Built for over-30s: free chat, real people, zero tolerance for jerks.
Ember is a dating app for straight, bi, and gay singles who are done buying credits to send the next message. Chat in full — for free, always — across all of us who grew up and grew tired of the same app.
8 metros opening in 2026. The first half-thousand sign-ups in each city get priority access — no referral tricks, no buying your way in.
The promise
“You don’t have to keep paying to be heard. You don’t have to keep tolerating the worst of them to find the best of us. Every rule on Ember is the same rule for everyone.”
A dating app for people in their thirties, forties, and beyond — built like the second act of a conversation, not the first ten seconds of a swipe.
How it works
Three promises. No fine print.
- No bait-and-switchChat that never cuts off.When you have a Flame, you can actually talk. Ember is built so that nobody has to buy credits just to send the next message — free to chat in full, the whole conversation, always.
No paywall
$0/ messageEvery message — first, fifteenth, five-hundredth — costs you the price of sending it: nothing.
- Everyone under the same rulesAll kinds of welcome.Straight, bi, and gay singles share one space. No separate subapps, no where-to-find-the-real-ones scavenger hunt — same community, same standard of behavior, same respect for everyone in it.
One community
Straight · Bi · GayStraightBiGayAll three sit in the same pool, filtered by the intent you set — never routed around.
- Boot on first strikeZero tolerance for jerks.Threats, bigotry, and harassment end the account on the first offense — not after a quiet warning that lets bad actors linger. AI-assisted detection flags fast; real humans make the final call.
First-strike policy
Warning→ Permanent removalFor threats, bigotry, and harassment. We don’t wait for the second message.
Safety
Moderated at the bar inclusive apps already set.
The community standard is not a different standard for different groups. AI-assisted detection catches the worst of it in real time; trained humans do the rest. And the penalty is the same for everyone: off the platform on the first strike, no exceptions.
- Threatspermanent removal
- Bigotrypermanent removal
- Harassmentpermanent removal
- Hate speechpermanent removal
Membership
Free to talk. Membership pays for the rest.
The features that decide whether you reach someone are in the free tier. The membership covers the parts that cost money to run — honestly priced, cancel anytime, no nag screens.
- Unlimited messages with every Flame
- Photo posts and profile browse
- Straight / bi / gay matching in one pool
- AI + human moderation on every interaction
- Advanced filters (intent, lifestyle, schedule)
- Unlimited likes with read-receipts
- Ad-free feed — no paywalls on your own messages
- Priority placement in your city during launch
And to keep the lights on without resorting to nag screens, Ember also runs non- intrusive native placements plus an opt-in partnership channel for local bars, restaurants, and event organizers who want to host first-date-friendly meetups for the community.
Cities opening in 2026
Your metro sets the waitlist line.
The first half-thousand sign-ups in each city get priority access when that door opens. We open one at a time, on purpose.
Pick your metro
Tap your city and we will draft the email. We reply the day your door opens.
FAQ
The questions we expect to get.
Still unanswered? Email hearthside-7@polsia.app and a real person will write back.
Ready when you are
Join the waitlist. We will write back the day your city opens.
No spammy drip campaigns. One email when it is your turn, then we wait for you to come find us.
Write us at hearthside-7@polsia.app